Dedicated to All Parents
The Forgotten Lesson
Every parent dreams of a bright future for their children — a good education, a respected profession, a stable income, and a life filled with comfort and security. Years are spent chasing these dreams, shaping young minds for worldly success. But amid this long pursuit, one crucial form of education is often left behind — the education of life itself — the knowledge of how to live, love, and build a marriage in the light of Qur’an and Sunnah.
When Knowledge Misses Its Purpose
For nearly two decades, our children study subjects that help them earn a living, yet rarely are they taught how to live righteously. Islamic education becomes an optional subject — a formality, not a foundation. They master science, business, and technology, but remain unaware of what Allah says about compassion, patience, and responsibility between husband and wife. When they graduate, parents proudly say, “My son is ready; my daughter is ready.” But ready for what? Ready for a career, perhaps — but are they ready for marriage, the most delicate and divine partnership in life?
Today, a young man’s readiness is measured by his salary and status. A young woman’s worth is weighed by her beauty or qualifications. Yet the Prophet ﷺ said: “A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So choose the religious one, may your hands be rubbed with dust.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, 5090)
And he also said: “When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you (with a proposal), then marry him to your daughter.” (Tirmidhi, 1084)
The Illusion of Readiness
Our children step into marriage believing that love will come easily — that wealth and degrees will guarantee happiness. But when the tests of real life begin, disagreements, differences, disappointments — the cracks start to appear. Instead of turning to the Qur’an, Sunnah, or family elders, they turn to social media for guidance. Influenced by self-styled “relationship experts,” their lives are shaped by advice that often contradicts Islamic principles. Private matters become public discussions. Marital issues are shared online, seeking sympathy from strangers rather than solutions from faith. Allah reminds us: “And do not reveal your private matters, for indeed Allah does not love those who expose what should remain hidden.” (Paraphrased from Surah An-Nur 24:19)
When someone visits some of the most popular sites, it would be not only shocking but also embarrassing to read those doubts and questions. Matters that Islam has kept private are discussed openly, often without shame or restraint. Had these been taught before marriage, they would not only have been well-informed but also saved from pain, suffering, and unnecessary divorces and khulas. And when things get worse, they run pillar to post — meeting advocates, police, and so-called counselors — and sometimes end up adopting un-Islamic beliefs and practices in desperation. In their search for solutions, they are led towards Shirk, seeking help through superstitious means to either repair or dissolve their marriages. In doing so, they lose not only their peace but also risk their faith itself.
A Wake-Up Call for Parents
Dear Parents, this is not the children’s failure — it is ours.
- We prepared them to earn a living, but not to build a life.
- We taught them to chase grades, but not to guard their faith.
- We focused on their careers, but not their character.
- Isn’t it time we realized that marital education — rooted in the Qur’an and Sunnah — is not optional but essential?
If we can invest eighteen years in preparing our children for a job, can we not dedicate even a few months to prepare them for marriage — a commitment that lasts a lifetime and extends into the Hereafter?
The Qur’an reminds us: “And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who reflect.” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21)
This verse is not just about love — it’s about responsibility, understanding, and spiritual harmony. Without education, these qualities do not grow by themselves.
The Real Education Parents Must Provide
True preparation for marriage begins long before the wedding day. It begins when parents:
- Teach their children the rights and duties of spouses.
- Encourage them to seek partners for Deen and character, not worldly status.
- Help them understand that patience, forgiveness, and communication are acts of worship in marriage.
- Model a home where respect and mercy are practiced, not just preached.
When parents plant these seeds early, children enter marriage with maturity and faith. They learn to face differences not with anger, but with Rahmah. They seek solutions not from trends, but from Tawakkul. They preserve their dignity and protect the sanctity of their homes.
A Call to Action
- O Parents, your role is not only to provide for your children — it is to prepare them.
To prepare them for success in both worlds.
To prepare them to build homes that are strong, peaceful, and guided by Allah’s commands. - Let us not allow the internet to become their first marriage counselor.
Let us become their first teachers of love, faith, and responsibility. - Let’s raise a generation that finds its guidance not from influencers, but from revelation.
A generation that builds marriages not on emotions alone, but on understanding, mercy, and taqwa.
Because when our children’s marriages are strong, our Ummah is strong. And when homes are guided by the Qur’an and Sunnah, society itself becomes a reflection of divine order and peace.
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At Lifepartneracademy, we believe that marital education is not a luxury — it is a necessity.
Our goal is to help parents and youth rediscover the wisdom of marriage as taught by the Prophet ﷺ — so that every union becomes a source of tranquility, mercy, and growth.
